Writing all these
blogs has helped me immensely in class.
It has helped me by looking over my notes from the previous week and
summing up what we talked about and what I learned from the lesson. The blogs also helped me to see other student’s
thoughts and feelings of different topics we discussed. Overall I think the blog was a great idea.
JenessaJoy
Saturday, April 6, 2013
Blended Families
We have been discussing blended families in class and the challenges
that may come with these types of families.
When couples separate men are usually the first ones to get
married. Women are the ones that usually
have a little bit more difficult time getting re-married when they have kids in
the home. Seventy percent of women are
the ones filing for divorce most often.
When spouses do split up boys ten to fair worse than girls. Boys are also more likely to push boundaries
with their parents. When people re-marry
they may marry into a blended family.
The biological parent of a child is the ones that should hold all of the
heavy discipline. The step-parent should
act like an uncle or aunt to the children.
Parents should always remember to conference behind closed doors. Typically, it takes about two years for a
blended family to reach normalcy.
Saturday, March 30, 2013
Active Parenting
In a video by Michael Popkins we learned that balise has two
meanings 1. The bottom of the boat which is weighed down or stabilized so the
boat does not tip over. 2. That which gives stability to character. There are four things we need to balance our
character.
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Courage: cour means strengthening of the heart.
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Responsibility: the ability to respond. Choices vs. consequences.
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Cooperation: to work together.
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Respect: to esteem.
When we use these four attributes to teach our children,
while parenting, it can help to balance their character. How we respond to our children and NOT react
will determine what they learned from the experience, especially in the future.
The way we teach our children now will determine their future.
Saturday, March 23, 2013
Family Dinner
Women were put into the workforce during
WWII because businesses were in need of employees. After WWII was over, women liked the feeling
of independence and earning a little extra cash for their own use. When both parents work in the family unit
there is less family togetherness, like eating dinner together. Eating together can be a very intimate thing. Families that eat together contribute to less
criminal activity, premature sex, etc.
Family dinner is a time to share about daily experiences and what went
good or bad in each other’s day. Eating together
brings a bond between children and parents that may only happen when families
eat together. I have noticed how family
dinner has changed my family and have seen how my brothers and sister have
implemented in their own families. They
converse about their days and also plan future activities together. My siblings have a stronger bond with their
spouses and also with their children because of eating together as a family.
Saturday, March 16, 2013
Family Council
We are asked to have
a family council at least once a week with our spouse and/or children.
The council
process is:
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Council in
a group
·
Speak openly
·
Be frank
with each other
·
Come to
a consensus after a discussion
·
Align
our will with Heavenly Fathers
·
Express
love and appreciation
I like how Elder
Ballard put it “There has never been a time when the world was in greater need
of the strength and security that are best sown and cultivated in the deep,
fertile soil of family love. Successful
families have a wide assortment of tools, and one of the most useful tools is family
council.”
The concept of
family council strengthening the family and bringing them closer together has
remained true in my life. Although my
family and I do not council every week we would do it at least once or twice a
month. There are times when it is only
my parents and I or the entire family all together around the table, but every
time we do family council I feel closer to my family and a stronger bond with
each one of my siblings and parents.
Thursday, March 7, 2013
Change your challenges into opportunities
When handling a
danger or crisis our brain can only thing of that one situation. It is very wise to take a step back and think
of that situation. This helps us to
realize not just our situation, but also others around us. When being mindful we first need to notice
what we are thinking. Second, assess our
thoughts. Are these thoughts good or bad
and will they change us for the better?
Lastly, change what you are thinking.
If you can change your mindfulness, you can change your life and your
will be happier. If we could change our
challenges into opportunities we would all be so much happier and live a more
fulfilling life.
Saturday, February 23, 2013
Marriage Roles
Roles that change once you get married:
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Sharing time between in-laws
·
Daily routines or personal habits (Eating
habits)
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Sharing EVERYTHING!
·
Sleeping habits (going to bed and waking up at
the same time)
·
Gender expectations
·
Birth Control (which type to use)
·
Decision Making
·
When you become married or engaged they become
your best friends. You need to let go of
all your opposite gender friends. It’s a
serious boundary issue when you are too friendly with the opposite gender while
married. When you cannot draw those clear
boundaries that person is not ready for marriage. It gives people an emotional connection when
talking to the opposite sex. Don’t think
you can get around it.
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