Writing all these
blogs has helped me immensely in class.
It has helped me by looking over my notes from the previous week and
summing up what we talked about and what I learned from the lesson. The blogs also helped me to see other student’s
thoughts and feelings of different topics we discussed. Overall I think the blog was a great idea.
Saturday, April 6, 2013
Blended Families
We have been discussing blended families in class and the challenges
that may come with these types of families.
When couples separate men are usually the first ones to get
married. Women are the ones that usually
have a little bit more difficult time getting re-married when they have kids in
the home. Seventy percent of women are
the ones filing for divorce most often.
When spouses do split up boys ten to fair worse than girls. Boys are also more likely to push boundaries
with their parents. When people re-marry
they may marry into a blended family.
The biological parent of a child is the ones that should hold all of the
heavy discipline. The step-parent should
act like an uncle or aunt to the children.
Parents should always remember to conference behind closed doors. Typically, it takes about two years for a
blended family to reach normalcy.
Saturday, March 30, 2013
Active Parenting
In a video by Michael Popkins we learned that balise has two
meanings 1. The bottom of the boat which is weighed down or stabilized so the
boat does not tip over. 2. That which gives stability to character. There are four things we need to balance our
character.
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Courage: cour means strengthening of the heart.
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Responsibility: the ability to respond. Choices vs. consequences.
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Cooperation: to work together.
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Respect: to esteem.
When we use these four attributes to teach our children,
while parenting, it can help to balance their character. How we respond to our children and NOT react
will determine what they learned from the experience, especially in the future.
The way we teach our children now will determine their future.
Saturday, March 23, 2013
Family Dinner
Women were put into the workforce during
WWII because businesses were in need of employees. After WWII was over, women liked the feeling
of independence and earning a little extra cash for their own use. When both parents work in the family unit
there is less family togetherness, like eating dinner together. Eating together can be a very intimate thing. Families that eat together contribute to less
criminal activity, premature sex, etc.
Family dinner is a time to share about daily experiences and what went
good or bad in each other’s day. Eating together
brings a bond between children and parents that may only happen when families
eat together. I have noticed how family
dinner has changed my family and have seen how my brothers and sister have
implemented in their own families. They
converse about their days and also plan future activities together. My siblings have a stronger bond with their
spouses and also with their children because of eating together as a family.
Saturday, March 16, 2013
Family Council
We are asked to have
a family council at least once a week with our spouse and/or children.
The council
process is:
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Council in
a group
·
Speak openly
·
Be frank
with each other
·
Come to
a consensus after a discussion
·
Align
our will with Heavenly Fathers
·
Express
love and appreciation
I like how Elder
Ballard put it “There has never been a time when the world was in greater need
of the strength and security that are best sown and cultivated in the deep,
fertile soil of family love. Successful
families have a wide assortment of tools, and one of the most useful tools is family
council.”
The concept of
family council strengthening the family and bringing them closer together has
remained true in my life. Although my
family and I do not council every week we would do it at least once or twice a
month. There are times when it is only
my parents and I or the entire family all together around the table, but every
time we do family council I feel closer to my family and a stronger bond with
each one of my siblings and parents.
Thursday, March 7, 2013
Change your challenges into opportunities
When handling a
danger or crisis our brain can only thing of that one situation. It is very wise to take a step back and think
of that situation. This helps us to
realize not just our situation, but also others around us. When being mindful we first need to notice
what we are thinking. Second, assess our
thoughts. Are these thoughts good or bad
and will they change us for the better?
Lastly, change what you are thinking.
If you can change your mindfulness, you can change your life and your
will be happier. If we could change our
challenges into opportunities we would all be so much happier and live a more
fulfilling life.
Saturday, February 23, 2013
Marriage Roles
Roles that change once you get married:
·
Sharing time between in-laws
·
Daily routines or personal habits (Eating
habits)
·
Sharing EVERYTHING!
·
Sleeping habits (going to bed and waking up at
the same time)
·
Gender expectations
·
Birth Control (which type to use)
·
Decision Making
·
When you become married or engaged they become
your best friends. You need to let go of
all your opposite gender friends. It’s a
serious boundary issue when you are too friendly with the opposite gender while
married. When you cannot draw those clear
boundaries that person is not ready for marriage. It gives people an emotional connection when
talking to the opposite sex. Don’t think
you can get around it.
Saturday, February 16, 2013
Marriage and Relationships
There are four steps toward
marriage:
1. Dating
2. Courtship (dating exclusively) - Do we fit in a way that we are
ready for marriage?
3. Engagement
4. Marriage
We need to make distinct steps for
a healthy marriage instead of sliding through the steps. While dating we should have fun and date lots
of people. While dating we should take into account R.A.M. (Relationship attachment
model). We must know someone to trust
them. Trust them to rely on them. Rely on them to commit to them. And lastly commit to them to touch them. Doing these steps will help us have and
commit to a healthy relationship.
Saturday, February 9, 2013
Understanding Same-sex Attraction
In
class we have been discussing same-sex attraction. After watching videos and reading articles on
same-sex attraction it has opened up my understanding a little bit more. Boys
may have a little more interest in feminine things. They grow up thinking they are gay because
they might have been called a ‘fag’ or ‘sissy’ and people begin to judge
them. Their parents take their child’s
good qualities and throw them out of proportion to make them look terrible. These boys just want to feel like they belong
and want to hang out with other boys.
Their body responds positive to a guys touch and they start to think
they have been attracted to boys all along.
They may also have been molested and their body responds positively to
that and they thoughts become confused.
This can be a possibility of why someone will turn to same-sex
attraction as an answer.
If
we take our children’s qualities and turn them into positive attributes it can
help to avoid confusion in the future for our children. We need to love our children and help them
understand these positive responses our body makes are healthy, but not to get
them confused with wrong types of intimacy.
Saturday, February 2, 2013
Are all cultures equally valid?
In class we have been discussing whether we agree if each and every culture is valid. We also had to write a post and come to class prepared to discuss. In my post I said that each culture is different from another. I still see this as true, but my view has changed a little. Cultures have more similarities than we think; we may just show them in different ways. For example, when traveling to Samoa I noticed how different things were from the U.S. Now thinking about it, we are more similar than different. We show love just like they do. We may show it in a different way, but there still is the emotion of love. By showing this emotion in a different way is what makes cultures so unique. We are blindsided by how different we think it is, but we are forgetting to think how similar each culture is.
Saturday, January 26, 2013
“…the
family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His
children.”
-The
Family: A proclamation to the world.
Families
are someone we may turn to at the end of the day that will take us in when no
one else will. Families give us different
emotions of love, hurt, comfort, well-being, and a sense of satisfaction. There are boundaries with family members that
are clear, rigid, poor, or even diffused.
These boundaries help us to distinguish where we stand with another
person. Once we understand these
boundaries we may can help better our relationships with family member and even
fix broken relationships. Saturday, January 19, 2013
Life Lessons
Let us continue, brethren and sisters, to work in the name of the Lord our God; gathering wisdom and intelligence day by day, that every circumstance which transpires may minister to our good and increase our faith and intelligence
-President Lorenzo Snow
This quote reminded me of the Learning Model we had to talk about for class. Knowledge is something that I am very grateful that I can obtain each and every day through going to school, church, or just life in general. I have learned lots through my parents. They have been great examples in my life and have taught me all of lives little lessons. I am grateful to have them in my life and look forward to the lessons I will keep learning from them.
-President Lorenzo Snow
This quote reminded me of the Learning Model we had to talk about for class. Knowledge is something that I am very grateful that I can obtain each and every day through going to school, church, or just life in general. I have learned lots through my parents. They have been great examples in my life and have taught me all of lives little lessons. I am grateful to have them in my life and look forward to the lessons I will keep learning from them.
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